Right so I went out on Friday night, wasn’t really feeling like doing much and no one else was really out. All in all I stayed out like 30 mins lol
I ended up and coming back and chilling out with a couple of old mates, we catch up once a week really and just see what is going on. One of them has been trying his hardest to chat up a girl at work. We all know the type the super fine one, that everyone fancies but can't figure out how to chat up or has no balls to do it.
I am unsure if I posted about this earlier, but my friend comes to me for advice, and you know what….I don't like giving advice, I am not in the position to tell people how they should do things, how they should talk to this girl how they should do things…in a way I feel like a hypocrite.
My own personal thought is don’t play where you work, I have a huge laugh with the people at work (girls and guys included), I keep telling the girls I am gay and they don’t believe me, one girl was on about how there is no way I could be gay by the pictures that are on my facebook (she called me a gigolo) lol. But I did manage to convince one other girl I was gay …..for a bit haha. I do it for my own amusement…really it amuses me because it is such a left field remark for a guy to say so openly, and quite a few times it knocks people a bit and they go quite!
I actually try to keep my working life and private life separate to a point, and I was a bit surprised, I always thought I had a bit of a clean cut image at work, but everyone told me that was indeed not the case lol
Recently I have been asking myself what do I want…I don’t want a string of one night stands and shitty relationships, I have always wanted a nice girl who is worth my time and has loads going for her, ambition, she pushes my comfort zone and I push hers. I keep saying I don’t like dating Asian girls cos of all the drama that comes with them, but now if I find a girl that is worth it…I will just deal with whatever drama will come (if any)…why? Because if I truly know she is worth it, then I will handle whatever hassle will come and she will happily handle any hassle I have.
I told my friend to just put his balls on the line, none of this email chatting/flirting etc, every guy is doing that and no one is getting anywhere, it is very low risk and low reward, make your intentions known, not via a 3rd party or anything, just do what you have to do. He told me that is really hard…I told him that is why it will work, either way you both know where you stand and if it doesn’t work out then well hey shit happens, but she will respect you for it immensely and you are free to move on. It is hard for me even to do that, I have done it sure, if any girl who reads this doesn’t appreciate how hard that can be…wake up and smell the coffee woman! All I say is you do what you have to do, make no apologises for your actions, because how can you? She is the one making you do it..you find her immensely attractive for a variety of reasons. I try my best to be an all or nothing type of person…no half measures. One day I will find a good balance but I doubt it will be any time soon. Me personally I would only go to that extreme with a woman who I truly thought was worth it, it doesn’t happen often…hell Adam tells me I am a picky bastard…well hey I guess I am ;-) if you went to that kind of level and you didn’t believe in what you were doing, she would sense it and it would be fake and she wouldn’t be best pleased.
I really like to travel and meet people, they are my biggest passions. Meeting people can be hard at times but hey who said life would be easy?...it wasn’t me that’s for sure!
I try my best to actively meet new people, you just don’t know who you will meet sometimes…really you don't. You want to chat up people at work, if that is the only place you do it, then there is a whole load of pressure on you to get it right first time.
Man I could reel of a massive list of the royal fuck ups I have made, I fail a lot more then I succeed….but you know what, I make mistakes learn and move on and that is what is making me the person I am today. Some of the best people in this world have failed sooo many times before they have succeeded, some people just are not willing to put in the time and effort required fair play each to their own.
Man see this is why I hate giving advice…it is soo easy for some 3rd party person to give off advice..sure it makes you feel all good and important, but that isn’t me. I just keep learning and doing my thing and I am quite happy to help out people any way I can.
I always try to put my best self forward…and by that I mean I dress as smart as I can and don’t look like a scruff and smell..ok sometimes I do but that is because I get caught up in all sorts lol.
Man I went off on a bit of a tangent there..really I did lol.
I ended up and coming back and chilling out with a couple of old mates, we catch up once a week really and just see what is going on. One of them has been trying his hardest to chat up a girl at work. We all know the type the super fine one, that everyone fancies but can't figure out how to chat up or has no balls to do it.
I am unsure if I posted about this earlier, but my friend comes to me for advice, and you know what….I don't like giving advice, I am not in the position to tell people how they should do things, how they should talk to this girl how they should do things…in a way I feel like a hypocrite.
My own personal thought is don’t play where you work, I have a huge laugh with the people at work (girls and guys included), I keep telling the girls I am gay and they don’t believe me, one girl was on about how there is no way I could be gay by the pictures that are on my facebook (she called me a gigolo) lol. But I did manage to convince one other girl I was gay …..for a bit haha. I do it for my own amusement…really it amuses me because it is such a left field remark for a guy to say so openly, and quite a few times it knocks people a bit and they go quite!
I actually try to keep my working life and private life separate to a point, and I was a bit surprised, I always thought I had a bit of a clean cut image at work, but everyone told me that was indeed not the case lol
Recently I have been asking myself what do I want…I don’t want a string of one night stands and shitty relationships, I have always wanted a nice girl who is worth my time and has loads going for her, ambition, she pushes my comfort zone and I push hers. I keep saying I don’t like dating Asian girls cos of all the drama that comes with them, but now if I find a girl that is worth it…I will just deal with whatever drama will come (if any)…why? Because if I truly know she is worth it, then I will handle whatever hassle will come and she will happily handle any hassle I have.
I told my friend to just put his balls on the line, none of this email chatting/flirting etc, every guy is doing that and no one is getting anywhere, it is very low risk and low reward, make your intentions known, not via a 3rd party or anything, just do what you have to do. He told me that is really hard…I told him that is why it will work, either way you both know where you stand and if it doesn’t work out then well hey shit happens, but she will respect you for it immensely and you are free to move on. It is hard for me even to do that, I have done it sure, if any girl who reads this doesn’t appreciate how hard that can be…wake up and smell the coffee woman! All I say is you do what you have to do, make no apologises for your actions, because how can you? She is the one making you do it..you find her immensely attractive for a variety of reasons. I try my best to be an all or nothing type of person…no half measures. One day I will find a good balance but I doubt it will be any time soon. Me personally I would only go to that extreme with a woman who I truly thought was worth it, it doesn’t happen often…hell Adam tells me I am a picky bastard…well hey I guess I am ;-) if you went to that kind of level and you didn’t believe in what you were doing, she would sense it and it would be fake and she wouldn’t be best pleased.
I really like to travel and meet people, they are my biggest passions. Meeting people can be hard at times but hey who said life would be easy?...it wasn’t me that’s for sure!
I try my best to actively meet new people, you just don’t know who you will meet sometimes…really you don't. You want to chat up people at work, if that is the only place you do it, then there is a whole load of pressure on you to get it right first time.
Man I could reel of a massive list of the royal fuck ups I have made, I fail a lot more then I succeed….but you know what, I make mistakes learn and move on and that is what is making me the person I am today. Some of the best people in this world have failed sooo many times before they have succeeded, some people just are not willing to put in the time and effort required fair play each to their own.
Man see this is why I hate giving advice…it is soo easy for some 3rd party person to give off advice..sure it makes you feel all good and important, but that isn’t me. I just keep learning and doing my thing and I am quite happy to help out people any way I can.
I always try to put my best self forward…and by that I mean I dress as smart as I can and don’t look like a scruff and smell..ok sometimes I do but that is because I get caught up in all sorts lol.
Man I went off on a bit of a tangent there..really I did lol.
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